Wednesday, October 21, 2009

2005-2007 Census Findings in Baltimore

PERCENTAGE OF FAMILIES AND PEOPLE WHOSE INCOME
IN THE PAST 12 MONTHS IS BELOW THE POVERTY LEVEL

Married couple families

6.6%

Families with female householder, no husband present

28.8%


More fun statistics here.

Wednesday, October 14, 2009

More stats

MARITAL STATUS

Population 15 years and over

221,148,671

100.0%

Never married

59,913,370

27.1

Now married, except separated

120,231,273

54.4

Separated

4,769,220

2.2

Widowed

14,674,500

6.6

Female

11,975,325

5.4

Divorced

21,560,308

9.7

Female

12,305,294

5.6



I can't believe that 54.4% of everyone over 15 is married. This is incredibly reassuring to me. I've grown up in a single-parent household and have just assumed that I will be divorced eventually. I am just so surprised right now that that many people are married and not divorced! 27.1% of everyone has never been married, so the divorce rate is not as high as I thought it was in my head.
My experience seeing my parents separate has absolutely shaped my views of divorce. It is so normal to me and I can see how easily it can happen that I'm kinda surprised that so many people can do it [marriage].

Sunday, October 11, 2009

Family Support America


This organization gives advice about adoption, how to not lash out at children, children and divorce, finding daycare, etc.

Marriage earns money for divorce.

These are two signs that make me smile.

Thursday, October 8, 2009

Family Dinners


"Teenagers who eat with their families less than three times a week are more likely to turn to alcohol, tobacco and drugs than those who dine with their families five times a week."

"Like breastfeeding and Baby Mozart tapes, family dinner has become a red-hot item on the good-parent scorecard."

"But as parents go to ever more breathless effort, or feel ever more guilt-ridden, are we becoming too literal-minded about 'family dinner'?"

"'To say that family dinners are associated with good outcomes is not the same as saying that family dinners cause good outcomes,' wrote Dr. Cowan, who has studied families."

I thought it was interesting that teenagers are less likely to turn to drugs and alcohol if they have regular family dinners. I have not found that to be the case (my family has dinners together regularly, and my siblings...)
But it makes sense that if teens don't get that family, that sense of belonging, that they would turn to something else. I've always heard this was true in terms of why some teens turn to gangs. That sense of belonging. I think it's important that not only as future parents we address this, but as future teachers. Give your students a place to belong so they don't need to turn elsewhere.

Fractured Familes


I came across this article in the UCLA magazine titled, "The Fractured Family", It seems that even traditional nuclear families are having a harder time of it these days.

"the traditional nuclear family represented only 24 percent of American households"!!!

" [Adults are] taking on more to do in less time, with research showing that dual-income parents now work more than 90 hours a week combined."

"family members were all together in the same room only 14 percent of the time."




Wednesday, September 30, 2009

White Mothers

As someone in a very secure, long-term interracial relationship, I am on a fast track to having and raising biracial children. I am not sure, because I'm not biracial, but I worry that my children will have to deal with race in ways that white children in white families and black children in black families don't have to. They may notice differences between the races earlier and will have to deal with prejudice from both sides of the fence. I will love them and support them to the best of my ability, but I think I need to admit that there are some issues that I won't be able to help them with. Two books that deal with this topic beautifully are
Dreams of My Father by Barack Obama (the young man in the photo).
In both books, the authors are raised by single white mothers left dealing with parenthood and racial tensions. James McBride's mother takes a unique route and just denies that she is white, she's "just light skinned." Even though I think that's really funny, I hope that there is a way for interracial families to discuss race without anyone denying their racial background.